"Idiosyncrasies, or quirks in another person's personality, do not bother us as much if our relationship is intermittent. For example, if one person is neat and tidy and the other is sloppy, this is more likely to become a concern if living closely together than if you are only seeing each other occasionally. If a statement appears to contradict another statement, then your roles are likely to alternate. Also, read the statements carefully, as it is likely a certain characteristic shows up in different ways. For example, you may be the aggressor in one area while your family member may be assertive in another."